More yes than no.

I once worked for an extremely liberal, liberal arts college (is that a given?). First in donation wrangling and then in student fun stuff. When I moved from the relatively stodgy donation wrangling to the "have fun on our budget" office, one of the first things my new boss told me was "we like to be the office that says 'yes' more ofthen than 'no'." I liked what that meant, and have tried to take it into my life, while of course protecting myself and my family from overload.

Yes is positive. No can be positive too, if it's done in a loving and honest way. Still, I like to try and say "yes" as often as I can.